Kobe Bryant and the complications of grief
Updated: Feb 1, 2020
As a huge basketball growing up in Indianapolis I admired the life and legacy of Kobe Bryant. I still remember seeing his first game in the Burgess Hall lounge at the University of Sioux Falls. Who is this 17 year kid playing in the NBA I thought. All of the guys (and some gals) were glued to the TV that night and boy did he leave an impression. NBA championships, MVPS, All Start Appearances, Business ventures a great father and now he is gone. So what do we do when we lose something or someone close to us? In the next few minutes I would like to talk to you about grief. What is it and how do we deal with it?
Grief is the acute pain that accompanies loss. It is deep, because it is a reflection of what we love, and it can feel all-encompassing. Grief can follow the loss of a loved one, but it is not limited to the loss of people; it can follow the loss of a treasured animal companion, the loss of a job or other important role in life, or the loss of a home or of other possessions of significant emotional investment. And it often occurs after a divorce.
Grief is complex; it obeys no formula and has no set expiration date. It is an important area of ongoing research. While some experts have proposed that there are clear stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance—many others reject this structure and emphasize that grief is a highly individualized emotion and not everyone will grieve the same way.
Grief is sometimes compounded by feelings of guiltand confusion over a loss, especially if the relationship was difficult. Some individuals experience prolonged grief (also known as complicated grief), which can last months or years. Without help and support, such grief can lead to isolation and chronic loneliness.
Many of the symptoms of grief overlap with those of depression. There is sadness, and often the loss of capacity for pleasure; insomnia ; and loss of interest in eating or taking care of oneself. But the symptoms of grief do tend to lessen over time, although they may be temporarily reactivated by important anniversaries or at any time by thoughts or reminders of the loss. Unlike depression, though, grief does not usually impair one's sense of self-worth.
If you are experiencing any of these symptoms or just feel like it would be beneficial to sit with someone to explore life issues please don't hesitate to reach out. It has been said, I alone can do it, but I can't do it alone. For free consultation I can be reached at 605-271-7712.
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